I responded to some of your questions on my post. I just now found your thread and wanted to let you know that you are in the right place. There is a lot of knowledge here on this board. I'm sure you will find the guidance you need to help you through this situation.
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His actions say he wants to talk about this, but when I initiate converstation he shuts down
This has to stop....you cannot talk about your R with your H right now. If he wants to talk...let him. You just listen and validate his feelings. Don't tell him how he is supposed to feel...don't ask him why he feels like that...don't tell him how whatever he says makes you feel....just listen and say something like...'I understand how ___ would make you feel ____.' (Fill in the blanks) and leave it at that. If you feel yourself getting angry at some of the things he may be saying...smile...but don't say anything...don't say nuthin!!! It's gonna be hard...trust.
This is not an overnight session here...you got to be in it for the long haul....you have to make that decision. In the meantime, like I said before, you have to take care of you and yours...bottom line.
My offer still stands...if you want to talk PM me and I will respond.
