WOW... she has officially dived off the deep end. Like Mako said, even if she is right, she's only hurting herself by putting all that in writing. I personally think (based on what you've said here) that you've been a great dad and are simply protecting your children from their crazy mother within the confines of the law. Just me though.
She is absolutely miserable. Sadly, i'm sure she believes what she is writing to you. This is probably because if she takes the blame for any of it, she'll have to take the blame for all of it (concerning the kids, not the M problems) and she can't handle that. This has to be someone elses fault, may as well be yours. I find it funny that she is critisizing the competancy of who you chose to let watch the children when a judge said she shouldn't even be able to. hmmmm? yeah, she's crazy. She seriously needs to see an IC and probably get on some meds.
I liked your response. She wants to get something back from you. She wants you to blow up at her. She is looking for something to use against you. Don't know how you feel about it, but possibly you could send her an email saying something like this:
W:
The kids will be at (location) from (time) to (time) on the (days). Please let me know when you will come see them at least the day before as the nanny would like to schedule outings.
DH
don't know if that would work (think you might have already told her something like that) but it would be something in writing to squash what she claims.
No judge in their right mind could look at all the hatred and anger in that email and feel that it would be a healthy environment for the kids. Just hang in there, there's not much else you can do.
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