Starting to get it...

[blindsided1]

I can't imagine what your sitch is actually like. Obviously, mine is so different. Things don't happen magically, they do take time and lots of work. I know you've read my thread and sex wasn't an issue with us even after we split. Now, he isn't even hinting at it. I try to look at the positive: at least I won't feel used. But, I can tell you, it's a horrible feeling to feel like your S doesn't desire you sexually. The sad thing is that he was overly sexual during our marriage and it use to drive me crazy. Now I miss it. Hang in there. I know that you can't MAKE yourself feel something that you don't. You're still piecing your M back together. Just keep reassuring him that you find him desireable.