Atlas - you are too funny. you met a woman, she's just gone a little crazy. Hang in there Thanks for the suggestions on how to tell him i need time. I guess it jsut seems weird to me cause i'd really prefer to just avoid it, so i don't want to bring it up. I might try the coupon thing. I used to do that when we were in the first years of dating for like massages or a night out of his choice or something else... I can use that for sex. Maybe i'll even put in somethings that he wasn't willing to try before, then if he gets a wild hair, he can try one of those.
Transformer - i wish i could read more often like you. H gets all weirded out when i'm reading R books around him. I've tried, i'll take the cover off, but he asks and then i tell him and its a disaster. I think i'm going to get the ssm book though and read it soon. I read novels all the time (read about 150 pages last night) H was wondering what i was reading. I read him a little bit and he thinks i'm crazy. Anyways... now i'm rambling. Thanks.
SBD - Mornings are an issue. I think it has to do with the light (he hates having the lights on). Atlas is probably right about it being a maturity thing as far as understanding what the other needs. I think the thing that is going to be the hardest for him (always is lately) is that i never needed time before. We women may platue and hang there for a while, but it just has never taken me long to get to that point. I always wanted him. Now i don't at all. It really sucks for both of us.
It's like we both have the same goal of things being like they used to be and even better, but he thinks somehow it's just going to magically happen and I know it's going to take a ton of hard work.
If i can't fall in love... I'd like to fall in chocolate! ~ Author Unknown
Thanks for the suggestions on how to tell him i need time. I guess it jsut seems weird to me cause i'd really prefer to just avoid it, so i don't want to bring it up. I might try the coupon thing. I used to do that when we were in the first years of dating for like massages or a night out of his choice or something else... I can use that for sex. Maybe i'll even put in somethings that he wasn't willing to try before, then if he gets a wild hair, he can try one of those. 
