Still hopeful for some pleasant surprises

[SirPrizeMe]

Telling her about OM Dating - yes that was a biggee.
But if she didn't know it, and if she was dating him, it was worth knowing. Turns out I was wrong, she is not "dating" OM any longer, or so she says, and she knows about his GF.

Ok, I got that one. I'll take credit for that. I knew I was skirting the line when I mentioned it to her. A few months ago, OM was her "Soulmate", her destiny. Now he is dating. It's a big change. Now she knows we both are aware of it.

The dating site thing: I did not register there to get a rise out of my wife. I registered on the advice of friends with the intention to meet people. I'd just as soon keep that from W's eyes. But after I registered I decided I wasn't ready, and I haven't done anything with it. I am still really lonely. But I still don't want anyone else.

Ok, DH, it sounds to you like I am trying to manipulate her. Like I want to get her to DO SOMETHING. Yes. Here's the thing: I want her to come back to me, to give our marriage a chance. It will be good for me if she does. I want her to know that I still want her back.

Am I trying to "get her to do something"? YES. I, like many people on this board, am trying to get her to stop this divorce. Only she can do that.