H4C - do I read your sig correctly? did you file for Divorce?

if so, What for? Why are you on DB.com if you are filing for divorce?

I get what you mean by, "not sure you are comfortable working on the R while she is with OM."

Maybe stop a bit and think about what you really want. Do you want a divorce? Then proceed with it. Do you want to reconcile? then stop the divorce and begin DB'ing in earnest.

It's unpleasant, unfair, and really hard. But if it is what you want, you can do it.

You have to decide what you want.

M 43
S14 S13 D11 D7
Divorce final: Jan 2009
Making it up as I go....