NikB #24

[SDFoundGirl]

Before I get into the workout.. on the paint.. I know it sounds like I'm making excuses!! I really know that I need to "move" paint or not, though. I honestly want to find a better paint, even if I'm painting around myself for awhile. I just need to find the courage. I had a it a couple months ago, I need to get it back!! It's funny how one week I can be looking at condos and the next terrified to move my clothes into another room of our house, eh??

You sound great! Just wondering...um...what would be your reason for moving into the other room at this point? Is it just to prove you can? Is it to elicit a particular response from your H? Or is it because you still want/need the space? If it's for any reason other than FOR YOU, then why?

I guess I'm wondering...because at first it was because your H was being a complete fungus and treating you like dirt and you felt the need for some sort of separation to help you detach. Right now (to me) you sound pretty detached, like you have H's behavior in its proper perspective, i.e., enjoy it in the moment, then let it go.

Maybe I'm wrong, but perhaps the hesitation is because you're not clear on why you're moving. Take some time and really look at that...get clear on your reasons and intentions...and then ask if it gets you closer or farther away from your goals.

I'm sorry if I'm sounding obnoxious, but a lot has changed in your house since you made that decision...so I'm guessing spending some time rethinking it and getting clear would be beneficial.

Loved your pictures, and I agree, your H looks like he has a genunine smile on his face. You just keep GAL, working on PMA, and let your H do whatever he needs to do to find his own happy!

SD