Before I get into the workout.. on the paint.. I know it sounds like I'm making excuses!! I really know that I need to "move" paint or not, though. I honestly want to find a better paint, even if I'm painting around myself for awhile. I just need to find the courage. I had a it a couple months ago, I need to get it back!! It's funny how one week I can be looking at condos and the next terrified to move my clothes into another room of our house, eh??
You sound great! Just wondering...um...what would be your reason for moving into the other room at this point? Is it just to prove you can? Is it to elicit a particular response from your H? Or is it because you still want/need the space? If it's for any reason other than FOR YOU, then why?
I guess I'm wondering...because at first it was because your H was being a complete fungus and treating you like dirt and you felt the need for some sort of separation to help you detach. Right now (to me) you sound pretty detached, like you have H's behavior in its proper perspective, i.e., enjoy it in the moment, then let it go.
Maybe I'm wrong, but perhaps the hesitation is because you're not clear on why you're moving. Take some time and really look at that...get clear on your reasons and intentions...and then ask if it gets you closer or farther away from your goals.
I'm sorry if I'm sounding obnoxious, but a lot has changed in your house since you made that decision...so I'm guessing spending some time rethinking it and getting clear would be beneficial.
Loved your pictures, and I agree, your H looks like he has a genunine smile on his face. You just keep GAL, working on PMA, and let your H do whatever he needs to do to find his own happy!
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
woah, I'm gonna have to take time off to go thru all those steps. haha.
thank you so much though, I will definitely take you up on the new thread idea. and that would be cool if more of us got in on it.
I'll chat later, take care and get that courage back up. you had it, and it's still in there, just pull it out.
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
How'd you make it through the night? I'm in Reno and we ended up with 7" of snow, no power outtages though. Saw Sacramento news this a.m., wow, what a mess. Hope you, H and doggie are high and dry.
Hey all -have almost no time to post but wanted to let you know I'm not ignoring everyone! Lost power at 9:45 yesterday and we won't have it back til at least Monday.
Not too much damage at least... lots of cleanup but most of our neighbors got it a lot worse. I'll post (and reply) when I can. I'm at Starbucks with 30 min. battery left on my laptop so gotta catch up on emails real quick first.
Thank goodness for fireplaces and gas water heaters!!!
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
Thanks all! Just checking in to say I'm doing OK and the lights are back on. Woo hoo!
Totally swamped at work catching up on everything I couldn't get done Friday though. I'll be online later to catch up and update.
Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7 Bomb 1 10/07/06 Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15 Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07 Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate 2/08 slowly improving 7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!) Current thread
I just need to find the courage. I had a it a couple months ago, I need to get it back!! It's funny how one week I can be looking at condos and the next terrified to move my clothes into another room of our house, eh?? 