I take it you've read 6 stages of MLC in the archives. Anger is first, replay is second, however I have read you can see elements of all six stages in any one stage, plus there is some overlapping in transition from one stage to the next and there is this cycling among the characteristics of MLC. Finally, depression is a constant underlying state during MLC.
My W pretty much is a classic, severe case. Anger has faded tremendously, but she is in full replay. I don't have a thread describing our sitch because it would be longer thanI think anyone would care to read, thanks for asking. I'll try to give a breif overview since you asked;
W had extremely chaotic childhood Sexual, mental and physical abuse Parents divorced, remarried Sexual abuse in 2nd home Ran away, bounced between foster homes Watched mother die, father abandoned her On her own at early age/ marries young Divorces 1st H Years later we marry 2nd marriage for both, no kids from 1st We have two kids Our daughter sexually assualted at age 3 I wanted/had chance to kill perpetrator, didn't at W's request (only whipped his a$$) 2 yr nasty trial (his parents had money to drag it out) I developed PTSD/shut down (have now "awakened") W's foster parents (top parent figures) die near simultaneously W experiences "breakdown" Says; "I'm all messed up","I don't know who I am" MLC begins
This is only a brief overview as there were other things that happened during the 9 yrs we were together. She is my soulmate, I am hers. I am waiting for her.
Last edited by sleeper; 01/04/0805:24 PM.
"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.
