Thank you so much. At times I feel the way you describe, to take care of myself. Also at most times I feel, why am I still helping her? Why am I helping her move? Why am I being so understanding? For reasons I dont know.

I know he still texts her and calls her and IMs her daily. Today is friday. The day I know (though she doesnt say it) is the day they always meet after work. This day is so hard on me. I told her of my plans to day ..that I was going to the friday night prayer meeting and asked if she would like to join us. She said, "can I think about it?" Her father is the pastor and her family already know what is going on. I doubt she will go tonight. But I plan on still going with my daughter even when I know shes with him tonight. This is truly hurting me so much.
For christmas I gave her a letter that I asked her not to read till next christmas or next yr or so for fear that if she reads it now, it may seem like another pressure to her.