Needing advice

[Michael Mc C]

First of all, as you already stated, the begging and pleading will do nothing for you and will only drive her away. Granted she has already decided to leave but if there is hope for your marriage, SHE has to find attraction in you again. Being needy will never accomplish this.

Sorry to see you here but please make sure you read the stories of others. Dazed & Confused has just gotten a lot of great advice that can help you as well.

Being nice to your wife right now may not be the answer either. It's natural and it's something I still struggle with. You don't want to appear as if you are seeking approval.

You need to work on yourself to make you a better person. This is the story of DB'ing. In the end you hope to save your marriage but it is the journey that makes the difference. You need to engage your life again. Become the person you were or always wanted to be. Rediscover what excites you in life and get out and do it.

Your daughter needs you to be the stable parent now. You sound like you have come to these conclusions on your own already so accept this as validation of what you've learned in a very short time.

Nothing you SAY will change your wife's mind. The fact that the OM is cheating on his pregnant wife is a good indication of where his morales are and maybe one day your wife will see that. If/when she does and has the ability to once again see YOU, what do you want her to see? The same husband that she is running from or someone who excites her, attracts her and makes his own happiness?

Continue posting and continue reading other posts. Sad to say you are not alone. Everyone here has a different story to tell but the answer is always the same: work on you and detach from your wife's antics. In the end you will be happy with you and that is what matters.