I hate even thinking about this yet. I know that H is going to want to be with our child once it's born, often. I worry that he is not as responsible as he needs to be to care for an infant. I worry that OW will end up caring for MY baby. It scares the hell out of me. I try to push it out of my head, for now and see where we are then. I wish you the best of luck. I come from a divorced home. Consistancy and a civil relationship between my parents was the only reason my brother and I came out relatively unharmed. But, I have to say, I would NOT have liked bouncing from house to house. MY home was MY home and my Dad's house was my Dad's house. Don't get me wrong, I loved my Dad and as I got older I preferred being there because he was more lax and I had built friendships by his home. But, as a younger child, I would have hated bouncing back a forth a couple times a week. It's too disruptive. Just my opinion being a product of divorce. This is why I am so unhappy about the decisions my H has made.


M 5yrs
1st baby-girl born 6/18/08
Bomb: 10/13/07 OW - I was 6wks Prego
H Moved in w/OW: 11/2/07
D Final 07/10
OW had his baby 3/17/09-so her
Me, now - happier than I ever was with him