W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

Hi Sandi,

It's great to hear from you again, I hope you enjoyed that well earned break you took.
A lot has happened in my sitch since you last posted here, some real highs and bad lows. I am sure you'll catch up on them in good time.

My first thoughts here were that she faced that the R with OM was really over. You have to realize that she is going to grieve for this man! I know that must be terrible hard for a H to accept, but it is just what it is

My thought was that she was still involved with OM, this thought even caused me to snoop and get caught. I can see your point that she could be in a state of grieving, I have read in a few books that this can happen.

Regarding asking for a hug......

This used to be our thing in better days, W would ask me to hug her in bed to "put her to sleep" or I would ask if I could put her to sleep. This usually involve hugging and some touching but not full sex. I think I tried this as a test and response. She wasn't willing so I won't do it again, unless she asks me to.

I am concerned about all the spending she is doing

It could be that W is comfort spending to fill void of OM, but all the recent spending we have done is within both our means. I think W is happier because I've spent money on myself for myself and I am dressing like the man she wants me to be. If anything it has boosted my self confidence because if W isn't fully noticing me, ladies on the outside certainly are.

One question I have for you is, do I still hold off on R talks. I ask because W isn't too good in civil talks, she tends to listen and her reply to any difficult question is "Don't know" or "it's up to you" If we had a full blown argument she's in her element and win hands down.

Sometimes I just get this feeling that she wants me to take the lead in things ie I've broke this M, Lan you've got to fix it. Again for me its about do I wait in limbo or do I push things a little because my feeling is W will wait until we are good friends again, and then try to carry on as if nothing has happened. Thats how things always used to be.

Anyway thanks for your comments and don't leave it too long until you post again.