W and I have a pretty good comfort level with the whole 'how each of us prepares' thing. It took us a while, but now it generally works pretty well.
If I've made overtures, and she's not sure she's ready, she has a couple of ways of buying the time she needs:
Often, she'll head to bed while I'm still wrapping up evening projects, TV, games, hobbies, etc. She'll let me know that she's going to 'power-nap' and that I'm welcome to wake her up when I come to bed. It combines a confirmation that she's heard my signals (or sends one of her own if I haven't! ) with having the time to clear her head of everything else and be there as totally as possible.
The other may work for you too - we like it in the morning sometimes, and if I express interest, she'll ask for time to grab a shower. She discovered early in our relationship that she finds my touch on her skin right after a shower particularly sensual. Something about the heat, relaxation, etc. This also has the obvious added benefit of giving her the 'brain' time she needs to be ready.
I can't remember if morning was a preference or an issue for your H, but I figured I'd share if it might help!
Same But Different
T - 7 years M - 2 years (my 2nd) Bomb (ILYBNILWY) - 10/19/07 WAW - 12/29/07 W home 12/30/07
My D(18) lives with us
'The aliens abducted my wife, and all I got was this T-shirt!'
) with having the time to clear her head of everything else and be there as totally as possible.
