Wife in Major MLC...Looking to Vent

[bombardier50]

Sleeper,
Honestly, I do the same thing...wake up at 3 or 4 in the morning, but I just lie there in bed and think. I should probably get up and do something.

Thanks for the words of encouragement and support. When I was in the military flying biz, we had to learn fast. If the bad guys shot a heat seeking missile at ya, you had to do something. If that something didn't work...do something different. I learned pretty quick from all you smart people on this board that I needed to do something different, quick, or things would get worse in a hurry.

Actually, last night I felt sorry for her. It was soooo obvious what she was doing. And she was so obviously frustrated when I wouldn't play along. Your adolescent metaphor is probably a lot more on the money than you think. Here's some background on my Klingon:

Her dad died quickly of cancer when she was 16. Bad time...never really came to grips with it. Her dad was a doctor, made good money. Unfortunately, her mom went off the deep end, started drinking, blew all the money. At 19, spouse got married to an overcontroling jerk (father figure). Quickly pushed out a couple of kids, divorced the jerk at age 25. We found each other when she was 28.

In short, my theory is that she never experienced adolescence. She never had the opportunity to go wild, date lots of guys, fall in and out of love a number of times. So I guess now, I get to experience her teenage years. This will suck.

I think you're right, she's in the anger stage, but also has one foot in replay.

I feel myself rapidly growing distant from her, sort of my own natural reaction to protect myself. I don't know if she can sense that or not, and if she can sense it, I wonder if it scares her a little.

Sleeper, do you have an old thread somewhere where I can catch up on your story? How are things now?