I love to see the men on this board supporting other men.....
Sorry you have to be here, but if you post/update/post on other threads, it will be enormously helpful for you.
I would hold off on telling family and friends/OM's wife. You can always tuck that away for the future. What did you tell people when you left the house? Pick one friend you can trust, keep them updated, and use them for support. They will feel honored you trusted them.
I would go home. Your kids need you, you need your kids. Give your W space at home.
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She did not have any remorse, no comfort, nothing.
This is very very normal. She feels it, but she won't show it.