New guy, hurting and needing direction

[Hurtin4certain]

Act like you are going to survive with or without her (because its true). Dont kiss her ass, just be nice. Tell your friends and family what your comfortable telling them, perhaps say you are having problems?

If she wants out, she'll get out. Nothing you can do about that. When my W first left, she filed for divorce. After a few months of lawyers and paperwork, she decided she missed us and dropped the case.

You have just onboarded a roller coaster, expect ups and downs. Keep yourself calm, your actions will be a determining factor in how this all plays out. There will be days when you are overcome with grief and/or rage, expect them.

I know you feel like your world has just come crashing down, I remember the dispair I felt (I even contemplated suicide) but I could never do that to my daughter.

Trust me, you will survive this and smile once again, I promise you.

Keep yourself busy.

H4C