Mike, the thing to keep in mind is that you are setting boundaries in a loving fashion, not as revenge. When you say "I'm giving you what you want" that is like saying "now choke on it!" I think you must set boundaries that are comfortable for you and your family. It certainly can't be healthy for you to add the stress of rushing over there every morning to help someone who doesn't want your help! This is for you too! It is important for your kids to know when they will see Dad, keep that in mind. I would set up visitation times that they can depend on. Lastly, be careful of the lawyer threats, don't take them lightly. Legally you have left your family without a separation agreement, that can be a problem. Seek out legal advice as soon as possible just to cover your butt, you don't need any more unpleasant surprises. I think that as you assert your limits in this situation you will feel more empowered. It's terrible to feel like you are helpless and the world is acting on you! You're taking some good steps here, congrats on that.
