Need Advice - Husband Coming off Affair

[summerd]

Thanks running - and michael -
Running - saw your question on the other forum. It appears the affair just ended.
I know he's been doubting for months that she would leave her husband. I saw a text message around christmas where he accused her of lying to him and him admitting he's the biggest fool in the world. His closest friend told me he hates her now. He has only said to me that he needs to get out of his workplace with "urgency" and that it's "not healthy for him to be there." I don't ask questions, other than career related. I very much want our repair to begin, but I know I'll probably have to wait even more months for him to get over this thing. He is getting medical help for depression and counceling - all good things.
AHHH - I'm tired of being only the kind listener, but my gut tells me you are both right. I am taking care of myself and having lots of fun with friends!