hmmmm....this is a tough one Karen. Your H seems like the type who can stay in hiding for a long time, like my H did. We had just gone about two months without sex until this week because of the whole "platonic" conversation. He told me just a few days ago that he was just going to live like that until I pushed him again. He had no intentions of initiating at all in the near future. He was able to hide away his sex drive (which I know dammm well he has now) and just cruise. It's all BS. Your H has a sex drive. Why he won't share it with you right now is the question. Maybe the sex therapist is a good way to go now. But he has to be willing to open up and I just don't know if that is something you can force if he knows you are willing to live like you presently are. I told my H a few months ago I was staying for the kids and the F-ed up thing is he thought that was a good answer. Then the soldier guy stuff happened and I think he said wtf, maybe she is staying but certainly not happily and that is always going to be a recipe for disaster. ((((Karen)))))) I think you need to find your happiness. Don't settle. You'll regret it.
