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H,s Dad passed away on the 20th. Have been very busy with Services, H's Mom and Christmas.
H sems to be doing well considering, I think he is relieved for his dad, as he is not in pain any longer.

I have been trying to be supportive of everyone. I have other news but will get back on that don't have a minute right now. Will post more later.

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I am sorry you have had a stressful Xmas. Been thinking of you.


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(((jak)))

Wow, what a rough Christmas. I'm so sorry. I wish you a MUCH better 2008!


Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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(((Jak))) Look forward to hearing from you when things calm down.

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WOW
I can't say things have calmed down. If this is the way 2008 is going to start than im in for another type of ride.

H is doing well so far givin the circumstances. I will remain silent for a while about what I would like to see in the M.

One thing is bothering me is the fact that he has not said I love you in almost two months. This leads me to believe he is still disconnected emotionally. Although he is being so good, attentive to me, helping me,touching me. But I do need I Love You's too. I need to know that he is not just here because of nothing better. Actions seem to show it but I need reassurance verbally and he is not verbal.

The big news we have recieved is that our oldest D and her H are expecting. They have been through a tough process with invitro and this was the last try that thier insurance would pay for (6). They had been trying four over 4 years to concieve.
Well it worked and right now we are looking at another set of twins. (We have 1 set of twin grandsons that will be 4 on Jan. 23rd).

Needless to ay that 2008 will be a very interesting year in all aspects.

Right now I would just like to start GAL again as it has been very hard on me with FIL's death and the Holidays. It is so easy to slip back into the old ways again of putting me last and not listening with my heart because it is so hectic.

Here's to a great "08"

Happy New Year Everyone.


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Just when I post that H hsn't said I love you in over 2 months He tells me that he loves me last night. I told him i loved him too and that i loved to hear that. He then got kind of quiet. Could be me or maybe he feels a little guilty. Now wonder if I should have said it to him.
Oh well can't dwell will see how things go.

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I told him i loved him too and that i loved to hear that.


I think it was wise to say that---obviously you said it because you need him to understand!!! It would have been different if you said, "and it's about time you said it!"

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Hey jak... im so sorry about your fil (((((hugs)))))

Its been so difficult for you two. Im sorry for that.

Im so glad he said ILY!! That was funny that you posted that and then he said it.. how ironic. Maybe he was feeling a little guilty, but you didn'tt push him and that's good, he said it when he felt comfortable and you know that he meant it.. so that's great!!

Thinking of you...

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Thanks Tal ,Mat

I do think that he meant it when he said ti and i do not say it first and he does know why.

Did I mention that we are going to be Grandparents again To Twins again! SO much fun and so much work!

How is everyone?

JAK


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Wow jak, sounds like a big upswing in the rollercoaster (with the ILY and the twins on the way!!). Very exciting - congratulations!!

I am sure it's a bit bittersweet with FIL's passing away and all the other "stuff" going on. I think it's smart to just let things go regarding the M for awhile. Good time to focus on you and getting yourself back on track first, and let your H heal some from his tremendous loss.

(((jak)))


Me 35, H 38; Together 13.5 yrs, M 7
Bomb 1 10/07/06
Sep'd 1/14/07 - 4/15
Piecing: 4/07 - 9/07
Bomb 3 10/11/07: Never loved you, let's separate
2/08 slowly improving
7/08 Piecing (7/25/08 rings back on!!)
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