Well, my H has never admitted to A. Even after I found out he was living with her he still denied it. He says they are just friends. A couple of months ago he said he has no reason to lie to me about it and since I couldn't let it go it would almost be easier to just tell me he was having an A to get me to stop asking. This was when he was still set on D (The D has since been put on hold). I am not sure whether or not to believe him. Whether it is a PA or not though it is still an inappropriate relationship and he doesn't seem to understand that. At this time he is still living with her.
I agree that the time frame is short. I am prepared for him to waver as he already has a bit. Patience is very hard. Not asking questions isn't too hard for me, mainly because I am afraid of the answers. I would rather address my questions in counseling.
