Well I told her flat out. I am not comming bye to help anymore. I will come every weds and every other weekend to be with the kids. I took her cell phone away. I will not provide a phone so she can talk to O/M no matter how "harmless" she plays it off to be. I also told her I will not be paying for any more of her luxuries.ANY of them... I will continue to provide food, shelter, all the nessesary things for HER and the kids, but Her luxuries are completely out of the question. I will take 1/2 of her paycheck and what she does with the rest is up to her.{I am the primary breadwinner, She is the out of controll spender}.
I will not be comming for breakfast every morning. I am gone... You want a separation You got it, A REAL SEPARATION....
She's pissed. threatening lawyers. I told her "this is what you want" not ME. Not the kids. YOU and OYU alone. I'm only giving you what you want. You tell me you don't love me. You tell me you don't want me as a husband. You tell me you don't want me in your life. This is what you will get. All of it.. Call a lawyer if you want and tell them what I am willing to give you {1/2 your paycheck plus ALL expences paid} and see what they say. I'm only giving you what you want and your threatening me for that?
Then It was " how could you do this to your kids"? they will know it is You {me} who does not want to see them. they will know it is You {me} who does not want to come for breakfast.. I told her I am allways a phone call away from whatever my kids need. A bedtime story. A bath. I will be here in a second should a crisis arise. But I not be comming arround AT ALL, otherwise. The bs emails. The bs phone calls. I'm "trying" to avoid them {trying to} This is what she wants, I'm giving it to her All of it. She can see what it's like to be a single mother of two. Maybe she'll do some thinking.
I'm still kinda bs over the whole O/M phone calls. She has an excuse for them all. But to me there is NO difference between "harmless" phone calls and A full blown afair.
I've realized for the past year I have been trying to fix what I have no controll over anyways. HER decisions and HER actions.
I am staying in my basement condo untill the smoke clears and hopefully this is the right thing to do?
