I think that is great that you two are talking. I think that is the key to this all changing for the long term. Because if he is just doing this to make you happy right now. What happens if he turns back into his old ways? I guess that's the harsh point I was trying to make. Is that cheating is wrong. It is so much better to just get out first. But believe me I can totally see where you are coming from. I am also in a SSM. I do believe it stems from this depression my husband has. But go figure he was about to cheat. I will never get that by the way.
So believe me I do know how you feel about being in a SSM. It sucks when your needs aren't getting met. I hope this will be long term for you. Because at times my husband has made changes only to go back to his old patterns. I am at such a loss at how to turn things around.
Ya know LFL maybe I was projecting my anger at you because of the own anger I feel at myself. I did wake up and haven't done anything. But I am at where you were at. The thing that sucks is that I am being pursued by someone who is interested. He is 10 years younger then me. I am vert pro marriage. But I don't know how much longer I can keep going on like this.
But anyway glad you and the husband are communicating about this. That's great. Sounds like it's leading to some meaningful conversations.
