Karen, You are an such a patient woman. Your H does not realize how fortunate he is that your detachment has not turned into indifference. I am hoping to read of more awakenings in 2008.
I have had to deal with my situation in a completely different fashion...basically, I had to hit my H over the head to get througb to him. And he has told me that if he ever gets out of line again, to find the nearest baseball bat! I had become shut down and mouse-like, when I needed to bring out my watered down tiger stuff. In your sitch, it sounds like a direct approach only causes your H to rebel, so he has to come around on his terms.
Well, as we have said many times here, there is no one size fits all for this kind of fusion. I admire your dedication to the process.
