I was simply responding to your (IMHO) fatalistic suggestion that all anyone has to lose in an M or an R is money.
Nope. Not unless that is how you present it. But that is how it was presented. To me. In monecal terms. No offense to him. Thtat's what I got it down to. When it all gets to business, that is what it is.
I remember standing in my kitchen...
It all came down to money. Not what was best for boys. Just where they would be... and how much money it would save. But. I pushed it. That was me.
It all came down to brass taxes... because that is where I pushed it. That is what I got. So I got buisness. I was married to an accountant.
This makes no sense. As you say Corri, you pushed it. Your decision was made. You were splitting up.
At that point, all the things that baltoman was saying:
"Some of us have the life that we have built up to lose. It isn't about money. It is about coming home to YOUR HOME and being with YOUR FAMILY"
You had that too. But it had now been decided, by you, that this was now lost.
At that point, once that IS lost, then all that is left to split up is the money.
To understand that I am not getting down on you, I made that SAME decision! That was not a decision that was taken lightly. I had a LOT to lose and it had NOTHING to do with money.
Once that decision was made though, that we would no longer grow old together, share in our kids growth to adulthood TOGETHER. Share (possible) grandchildren together as a family...
Then after that, the only thing to divide is monetary. That is just the way it is. It has nothing to do with your ex being an accountant.
