Max- good questions. Very good questions-I assume there is no need for me to actually answer the questions, as there really is only one way to answer and it's that I will feel crappy down the road.
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This threw up a HUGE red flag for me. You're going to CONTINUE to let him live "single" and shop around, while also keeping you safely stowed away in your new house, for him to drop in anytime he wants?? You just invited him to be your H when he feels like it and not when he doesn't. Did he invite you to c'mon over to "his" place any time, be part of his life whenever you happen to feel like it, too??
Well that sure put some clarity on things.
So, what am I supposed to say; one of the things he said last night is sort of a 'take things one day at a time' (probably code for 'don't pressure me'). If I say "look it's all of me or none of me" I am afraid he will see it as pressuring him.
I don't know why I can't see the reality of the situation. My BFF is IM'ing me right now and reading me the riot act. I can almost intellectually "get" what she's saying, but he makes me so oogley googley. When he is happy to see me, I just melt.
WHY can't I GET this?????? Worse, how come even my mind is rebelling??
Me-43 H-46 M 12 yrs 7/09 T 15 2 grown kids bomb 7/05/07 H moved out 8/04/07 11/22/09 told him I quit;let's get ball rolling Mid Dec- he isn't sure he wants D End 2/2010-Starting to consider piecing
