You’re right. Happiness is "an individual Soldier task”! She was very generous and giving, never forgot my birthday, or other special days, it was just the other part that wasn't giving: the willingness to ever compromise, and to get uncharacteristically angry at the smallest thing, whether it was the fact that during a trip I hadn't planned it out to drive the absolute shortest distance between point A and B, or I put the plastic containers in the wrong cabinet when I unpacked the dishwasher.....ugh!
Matilda. Good way to look at it. My kids treat me very well! They love me to death, and are frustrated by their mother's behavior as much as I am. Witness the relationship between D17 and W.