Kissak, Thanks for the sound advice on talking with the inlaws. I do really want to see them soon, especially cuz we missed the holidays together. They are truely a good support and I will always consider them family no matter what happens to this M. I will just be more carefull this time around to focus more on me rather than him, as I know we will definetly talk about my situation (how could one not- it is like a horror story, or driving by a bad train wreck as you can't help but watch). My close friend once told me that if my life was a Lifetime movie/soap opera-she would definitely be watching it. I will still stand for this marriage until he goes through with a divorce & my ring is then removed from my hand. I just don't know if he will ever be able to be man enough to come back & want to heal our M. Good luck with seeing your H. Thats cool that you do TKD with your son. My friend and I used to go kickboxing for years and I loved it, and I also teach self defense classes. Take Care, Tipper
