Ongoing affair, D papers filed, advice wanted

[theotherhalf]

When I wanted to change my husband's mind, and somehow convince him that divorcing me was a mistake, I had to change me

But what do we change about ourselves? We are all doing what we should be doing. Taking care of "our" kids, holding down the bills, the house, all the responsibilities that the WAS left behind. I have looked badk over the years and seen things that I do need to change and have and will continue. Bottom line though is I didn't do ANYTHING that gave my H grounds to leave the M. My H is having a MLC period. The affair and wanting the D is all apart of that. I truly believe that none of this is about me. Am I wrong thinking this????