In "the guide to getting it on," Paul Joannides says that foreplay is everything that has happened since the last time you had sex! :-)

Atlas just totally suggested Michele's technique of "Say When" from SSM! ("I'm tired now, but if you can wait for me to take a 30 min nap, I'd be happy ...?" or "I'll be happy to do that after I take a shower?")

Keep us *posted*!
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