End of the Line

[SuperDad]

Dave,
Her recent behaviour should have no impact on you. She is continuing on the rollercoaster ride which she started out on. Just stick to your path and keep doing the things that will make you and your kids happy.

I am paying for not setting proper boundaries and being too accomodating early in the Separation , I wouldnt go sit at her place for 3 hrs in a huff.

Do you think this is really all bad? I think that it is interesting that she wants to come to your place when she is in such a mood. There are opportunities here for you. I think she is looking to see how life looks back on this side of the fence...whether the grass is maybe greener here than she remembers??

Next time, maybe just try " acting as if..."
...you are glad to see her?
...you would like her to join you and the kids in some activity or another? (Here you have to be careful. Make it an invite and then go even if she doesn't want to.)
...you really care how she is doing. (just ask, listen and validate)

I am not sure if you still want to try to work on your M/R, but if so, I think there are some opportunities here. Of course, I am halfway round the world, so I could be total wrong

SD