Cagz, I can tell you that I am feeling similarly. Also that DB C tells me that such ambivalence is normal and to be expected.
I don't have answers there. I have noticed some progress in our situation but H needs to do so many things to get his act together, and I am not sure if I think he can.
Looks as if we are in a similar timeframe. I am certainly going to be doing some evaluating at my year situation. I don't know if I have to make a decision then but I definitely want to do some evaluating.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D