Like I said on another thread. You speak a language of alphabet, your H speak a language of symbols. Doesn't mean you don't both speak.
Men are dif than us women. When they make a vow... they make a vow. The VOW is IT. It doesn't matter how YOU become. His highest purpose is the vow, no matter what you do.
You are so testing his vow.
Stop testing. Be in it, or get out. That is honest.
If you are going to BE in it... then do what every woman has to do. Adapt. Change. Learn. Men don't do that. Sorry. They don't. We can get pissed about it all we like, but... that's just they way it is. IF a man wants to change, he will. aka Hairdog. He's changing for him. Not his wife. It is making him feel like the man he lost. That is what it is doing for him. If his marriage crumbles, he will handle it. But it won't be because he lost himself in the process. See?
Your man is being your man. He doesn't know what you ask of him... because one... you aren't being clear, and two... he is a man... and he has vowed to keep his vow.
