W still angry with me, but the intensity lessens

[Lanzo]

I had a very good interaction with W after dinner. She talked about work stuff and I listened, then I talked about improving our finances and saving money and she listened. (Hey, we're talking about we and us things now). Then we discussed the possibility of buying a large LCD TV to fit on our kitchen wall, we have a large kitchen and this room is W pride and joy in the house. We went to bed and we continued to talk about buying this TV together and W says she's quite excited at the prospect of shopping for this TV at the weekend. (W loves shopping).

As I mentioned in a previous post W no longer puts maximum distance between us in bed and now actually faces me, so on a couple of occasions there was fleeting close contact with arms and feet. last week W would have jumped back, but the contact went unnoticed, if anything it was me who pulled back so she didn't get the wrong idea. I mean I asked for a hug at new year and got knocked back so I wasn't going to try again now. If anything I had the feeling she was going to ask me for a hug, but she didn't. So W says good night, (its normally me who says good night) then silence. After a few minutes W starts talking again about the TV so we talk a few minutes more before we finally go to sleep. W is very excited.

The thing I was thinking in all of this was, we are committing to buying an expensive TV together, we're also committing to long term decorating of the house, things we talked about before the bomb. Do I just go with this flow and see where it takes us, or at some point do I say Whoa !! what about all what's been going on, when do we sort out this mess ?

I mean I've been down this road before and I don't want to ignore things, sweep things under the carpet, I would prefer a proper resolution. The old me would have said no TV until we have major talks to see where we are going, then she would sulk, I'd get pi**ed off, then the whole circle of resentment and ill feelings would go round.

I need to break this cycle, I've got some big positives in my hand now but not sure what to do with them. I need help again.