H and I own business together, still talking

[grid, lost]

Mike,
long post, sorry. have to vent or cry!

Thank you for listening or reading all of my post (s). Wait till hear /oops read this one. Thank you as I'm really stewing tonight and need to vent.

I can't say why he gives you gifts, I'm on the same side of the fence you are, but I gave my W a Christmas present to show her iI still care and hopefully when she looks at the pics on the frame she will remember the good times. I don't think you giving H a present will make him think you're pushing him to change, he might see it as you're interested in giving also, if he's the only one giving the gifts he might think you aren't interested in him. Has it been a while since you have pursued a little?

Good question when was last time have I tried to pursue him??? First we need to define pursue??? In your mind mike, how do you define this??? Mention, R, comment I am reading books, have dinner with him??? What do you see as pursueing him? Goals, if what I am trying isn't working try something else. Good idea I'll give him a birthday gift. Absolutely !

Here goes my venting, ready???,, We had to connect by telephone several time today. So here is one of a couple calls had with him. Remember, our business is still being run from house more or less. We are not getting the profesional "rubbing elbows " as we should. So remember dogs and big claim against insurance co. over dog food?? I am consulted with an attorney. Just happens to be young practice in a Large victorian house, redoing and Great job at it. Well these couple attornie's are looking for people to rent space. Has 300% of everything we need, right down to F***ing cellar(taking on all prof. tenants) plus prof.elbow rubbing. Which should lead to more leads for us to gain clients! DU H get it! So I am talking with H, he & OW are in Maryland.

So H has to move here or move business. H does not want to work on R nor move business. I told him well you'll have to move north, rent mobile home and we each can take a big life style hit, as in down !!! I have been working very very hard to squirrel away money to try & have 1 yrs rent. Tell H about attornies, etc. We have to deside on price range we want and max we can go. No reason to open office if he isn't going to be up north. I've agreed to try and be in office couple days week (on drugs, lol) so someone will be there.

In business world you jump on stuff when it comes or you loose out. So jump on office or walk away don't even inquire. Here is H's response about moving, trying for low cost office space as first tenant, etc......to me...."well find out what they want and about storeage (I've already been through place)...,etc." almost whinning!!!!! Again I explain, no, that will not work, you go in to deal and ready to jump if you get the price and what you want, other wise keep quiet. As you'll just tick off the landlords (attornies)and never have a referral from them!!!!

For nearly 18 months any question about most anything, ask Q, H says I don't know what to do, I'll have to think on it, not up to making a decision today and then never responds, gets mad if you bring up again days later. I almost lost it, over the office, if we don't do something to increase revenue, going to loose the house and it is just by luck stumbled onto this up coming prof. offices. DBing, talked with H and said, H you can't wait or think on this, you have been doing just that for 18 months. Like it or not you have to just take a deep breath and make a decision. Come north or forget all of this. If come north, you are going to rent Mobile home and we both take big hit, if you do not come north move business.! [Which he really can't because he doesn't have any contacts. Cs have told me as long as OW is willing to take care of him, feed, house, sex he will never leave or make any changes in his life.]
Left the phone conversation with little knowledge and again, anger I can't deal with all of this. We have lots of problems but as a friend forced me to do, you have to peel one monkey at a time off your back. Which of course means you must make a decsion here and there. H refuses to peel monkeys off his back.

It could be R with OW is getting stale.

Some how I doubt it. Might wish it till cows come home, lol, just not going to be as above statement from C.

No offense to anyone from S Cal but I couldn't live there, traffic is way too bad and housing too high.

So I've heard, traffic is impossible and the worst in US. Have a friend who lives there and often invites me out. Maybe should plan to future, try and save for a plane ticket then just go. lol
Thank you for taking on all my venting. Just writing it all down makes this seem like an impossible situation. I guess Mike you can now see why I get so down at times. But then have to remember, no kids involved to be hurt and others have it much muh worse. At least H tries to pay bills. OOPs, another goof I made today. Somewhere into one of our conversations of morgage, etc. H says to me, "I don't want you like this and I do care about you." Angery I told him, no, no you don't care about me. I appreciate you sending money but lets be honest, the money is guilt money from you, call it like it is, just guilt or else you would at least try about our M/R.
I'm exhausted from remembering and writing all of this.
grid, lost