New -Devestated and Feeling Hopeless

[fooled again]

Hi Ellis,

I have just read your thread and some of it sounds like my life for the past 1.5 yrs. SAHM with a D6, my H had an A with a coworker, I had no idea we were in trouble. So many of us with the same story.

You are doing well for someone who has had to deal with this in such a short period of time. Unfortunately I did not discover DBing or this site until the third bomb (my H told me he ended the A, but kept it going for another year, maybe more). I went crazy, b/c intuition is very strong and in my heart I knew something was wrong.

Anyway, enough about my sitch. Something you said struck me:

I have no idea what he truly feels and I think he likes it that way and I have to stop guessing. I just wish I never had a child with him if I would have known he was going to be in my life this way - its torture

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I thought that too for about two minutes at the beginning. But I realize that in the end, if the only good thing that came from my M was my D6, then I am the luckiest woman in the world. Make the effort to create those special, magical memories for her and for you. She will remember those times, and they will sustain you like nothing else can right now.

I have something else to share w/ you but I have to go. I will write more later tonight.

Stay strong. The only way you can get through this is by believing in yourself. You ARE wonderful, you ARE lovable, you DESERVE a really great life. Give it to yourself - no one else will. I have learned this the hard way, and it has taken me a very, very long time to get here.

FA