Well, H agrees with the submissive theory

[MJontheMend]

Just dropping in nosey-parker style to say that I think you are both right and both wrong. LFL is in complete dopamine-infused lala land to think that this breakthrough is going to lead to lasting change without some considered effort. Trust me I know. Corri is still too invested in an avoider mind-set and offers advice that is along the lines of "if you pursuers could just learn to be more of an avoider like me than everything would be all balanced in everyone's relationship" The thing is if you keep signaling to your partner that you need space, you will eventually get space but it might not be in a form you like. Not everyone is going to choose to go take hang-gliding lessons. However,I think pursuers who choose to be dishonest about their choices are chicken-sh*tted and I think avoiders who cling to notions of honor and commitment as justification for acting like cr*p in a relationship are chicken-sh*tted too.