1st post- he left- came back- & just left again

[kissak]

Hey Tipper....I know how you feel. My children go to the daycare that my sister in law runs, so I see her and my mom in law occasionally. It is very easy for me to talk them because this is actually my H's step mom, and she has always talked bad about him. His sis too. They think he is being stupid and selfish and they have offered to help me in any way possible, his real mom too. They know the truth if they get it from me. My H only goes to them when he wants something. That is the R they have. They probably didnt even know until today that he left again and that is because he had to call them to invite them to my son's bday party.

I would say you can talk to them as long as you feel comfortable. They are your family and friends too. My MIL told me once that she didnt want to know everything her stepson did so she was quick to stop me from telling her some bad stuff. SO, maybe your inlaws might not want to hear everything. Maybe just visit and tell them you really dont want to talk about your H.

Good luck....keep standing if that is what your heart and Head is tellin you to do.

I am. Its hard, but Im doing it. Im glad you went out and had fun with your friends. That is what I am going to do tomorrow night....no kids. Im better about them going off on the weekends now than I was in the beginning. It gets better.

I also told my H once before that if he left, I would pretend as if he were dead. He was hurt by that comment. But now, I feel as if he is treating me that way. He only calls when it is about the kids or wanting to talk to them. I asked for it though. I didnt know it was goin to be so hard. I had to see him for a few minutes tonight when he dropped the kids off. I will have to see him again on Sat for the party as he will be here early for it and we will have to talk about something.

I do good until I see him.

Take care and do something fun!

Im off to TKD tonight with my son! Hopefully he will be a yellow belt!