You are a wonderful example of a husband and father to your kids...they will take the lessons you are teaching them and remember them always!
dry, please don't take what I say all wrong ok? You seem like a great guy, full of humor to get through a bad M and cover up the pain. You seem to have a pretty good line of communication with your kids (except the condom but you've explained that) and they talk to you. But I just disagree that the lessons the kids are learning are all good. KWIM? The way your W treats not just you but all the kids is not mentally healthy. Now I know there are a lot worse things in life besides being told you're using too much soap to wash a pan, but that's just an example of control and belittling and rudeness and and and... that's creating patterns that last a lifetime.
I really believe that you need to make some boundaries of just how you will tolerate being treated by your W, and how you will 'allow' her to treat the kids too. She comes home tomorrow, are you ready? I don't mean physically in the house, I mean mentally prepared.
I know I know, do as I say not as I do. I need to set boundaries too but there's no one here except me and H knowing how he treats me behind my back - and I suppose I share that learned habit.
Now how do I sugarcoat that? add a cinnamon roll? drizzle chocolate on a croiscant? heck I don't even know to spell it! how am I suppose to cook it and drizzle it!
