I haven't read the developments here closely, but my guess is that the increased intimacy has to do with three things:
(1) increased authenticity on LFL's part -- regardless of how she got there, she came clean with H, laid things on the table, let him know exactly where she was and what she was willing to do (2) increased authenticity on LFL's H's part -- he came clean about being submissive and LFL didn't flip. (And no, I don't think *any* male is going to cop to being submissive unless he means it. I think that was a HUGE step for LFL's H that was probably a huge relief for him.) (3) LFL effectively bombed H. The bomb makes pretty much all bombees very much aware of what they are losing and very horny. Ask around on the other parts of DB -- having an increased sex drive right after the bomb is pretty normal.
It sounds like this is a real opportunity for LFL and her H to get to a place where they have a good sex life that lasts. The post-bomb sexual energy should be capitalized upon in a way that makes it lasts by continuing to increase authenticity.
LFL --be open to each other. Be vulnerable. Show yourself. Be accepting. This is what you've done in (1) and (2). Keep it up and combined with (3) I think you may wonder a year from now how you two could have ever been where you were a week ago.
Thanks for that summary oldtimer. I truly hope you are right. I really do feel like something radical is going on between the both of us. As flawed as I am, I feel like if I can be authentic with H, than we will be able to get through anything. I'm almost positive we will.
