I can also see that this self discovery ideally should happen before you get into a LTR rather than 20+ years into it, but that is another road.
Isn't that the FCKING truth of the century. Bottle that and sell it, GGB. You'll be a millionaire.
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Anyway, I'm wondering if that tendency to get stuck, might simply be a symptom of not really recognizing myself fully, as it seems to be a little easier to pull out of those potholes after reflecting on myself than it did before. What do you think?
I'm thinking that is exactly what it is, as I am coming to similar conclusions myself. When I hit rough patches, and I do... directly after I've thrown my hissy fit (hopefully in a room where no one can hear), I start looking at me. My immediate impulse is to see what Other Is Not... rather than... Who Am I, and What Do I Want?
A lot of times, who they are showing me they are does not jive with Who I AM and What I Want... (a fix of ________ FIB.) The dilemma, it seems, is either giving up Who I Say I Am, or them not supplying me.
And I just don't think that's the dilemma. You must be starting to see that as well.
Quote: I can also see that this self discovery ideally should happen before you get into a LTR rather than 20+ years into it, but that is another road.
Isn't that the FCKING truth of the century. Bottle that and sell it, GGB. You'll be a millionaire.
Yeah, but those 20-somethings who would have a use for it don't have the experience to justify paying the price for that little bottle, and even for the few that do, they don't have the disposable income to afford it
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My immediate impulse is to see what Other Is Not... rather than... Who Am I, and What Do I Want?
OK, so I AM onto something here then. Darned hard at times to refocus on what it is that I am/want instead of the easy path of pursuing what the other is not, ain't it? The light seems to be filtering in a little
The striking thing I've been finding is when I really sit and think about what it is I want, I am finding that often it is not at all what I thought I wanted. I appear to be way more complex than I thought I was (and that isn't meant as a boast). Damn, I should have kept the instruction manual!
The striking thing I've been finding is when I really sit and think about what it is I want, I am finding that often it is not at all what I thought I wanted. I appear to be way more complex than I thought I was (and that isn't meant as a boast). Damn, I should have kept the instruction manual!
Ah. Welcome to the club, my friend. Here's a pint o beer. Find a chair... NONE of them are at the Center of the Universe.
Bottle that and sell it, GGB. You'll be a millionaire. 