Need Advice - Husband Coming off Affair

[Michael Mc C]

I think the mail was a perfect way to start. Just don't push for any discussion. Let him open up when he's ready. In the meantime take care of yourself and your kids.

If that R has indeed ended then yes, he'll need time to recover. I don't recommend being a shoulder to cry on, however, as it's not your job to soothe him after his infidelity.

That, however, is just my opinion. You want to be strong for him but you don't want him to have any delusions about what you want your relationship to be with him (unless you have decided to simply remain friends).

A short while ago my wife was crying and apologized stating that she had a lot of baggage to work through. I told her that I understand and that was about it. I was not judgemental but I also did not ask her if there was anything I could do to help her work through the pain of losing the OM.

I don't know if this is proper but in my mind it is.