I know I'm definately not WYSIWYG. However, I think H believes that he is. I will tell you that he isn't. In fact, I think he does a great deal of false advertising perhaps without even knowing it. He presents a What you see is what you get exterior and actively blocks people from knowing the interior. I can even sometimes guess as to what is going on down below his presentation and he will often agree, "Hhmmm, yes that seems right" but will never embellish any statements pertaining to his inner workings.
Tee hee. I think that might be where you are getting stuck.
You can get what you want... you've even said you can... you just don't want to. The thing of it is, you seem to only know one way to get what you want... and you don't want to do THAT one way thing...
I have NEVER believed that there is only one road to Rome. Nothing in nature has ever proved itself to be that way.
The fact that he doesn't want to embellish his inner workings doesn't mean he isn't telling you anything. His style of communicating is different than yours. This is where I think you need to take BF's advice and listen more to his actions, rather than his words (or in his case, lack thereof). Meaning... I think your language is alphabetic, and his language is more symbolic. That doesn't mean you can't communicate -- if you can get over the fact that he IS different than your preferred method. Hey, you may even find that a different method jazzes you more than you could have ever fathomed.
I think you can get what you want by giving your H what he wants. And he may not know what that is... or he may not know how to tell you... or he may be too scared...
I could be wrong... I just don't think that most people purposely misadvertise; but when they do... is it that they are being false, or that maybe we just aren't hearing what they are saying?
I think that might be where you are getting stuck.