Husband Coming off Affair - Need Advice

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I have solid information that my husband (after 3 years) has ended his emotional affair. We do not talk about our relationship or the one he's ending, but he has opened up about himself recently in an email. He's seen a councelor and agreed to go back. We have great, casual encounters with our family and kids - hugs, pecks, etc. All good. Holidays were great - a couple of dates. I know he needs a friend but I think he feels he'll hurt me more if he opens up right now. I felt moved to send him an email just now that said we love you and I am here for you. He did not respond - in great pain. He works with the woman and I'm sure he's suffering at work - plus guilt of his actions, etc. I know I can be the friend he needs if he would feel safe opening up, but I don't want to push. Talking about sensitive subjects has been like extracting teeth at times during our marriage. Any advice???