Need Advice - Husband Coming off Affair

[summerd]

I have solid information that my husband (after 3 years) has ended his emotional affair. We do not talk about our relationship or the one he's ending. We have great, casual encounters with our family and kids - hugs, pecks, etc. All good. I know he needs a friend but I think he feels he'll hurt me if he opens up right now. I felt moved to send him an email just now that said we love you and I am here for you. He works with the woman and I'm sure he's suffering - plus guilt of his actions, etc. I know I can be the friend he needs if he would feel safe opening up. Any advice???