I'm not trying to rain on LFL's parade, and I don't think I'm saying anything different than what she has said herself, be it in jest or not. A part of the HD/LD cycle is that things get better, for awhile. It's been discussed in numerous books. She's admitted on here what has happened, and she has also admitted that she doesn't know why it is different this time as compared to any other time. I'm encouraging her to stay with it... as it seems that she is more interested in having her H supply her with water, rather than learning how to dig a well.
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And I understand I have issues to work on in myself.
Not too long ago, you didn't want to work, on anything, remember?
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But to imply that two people can't stay M unless they can both be Who They Are is just existential BS.
I'm not implying that at all. You took your M to the brink of cheating. You want to go do that again the next time you hit a drought, by all means, have at it.
What I was trying to say to you is through this process, I think you inadvertently stumbled upon a truth about your H, one that maybe he can't even admit... if you don't want to explore, fine.
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I'm not the one D here, you are. I am only bringing that up to make the point that the way you imply I should go about MY LIFE is to follow these rules of Corri that I just don't think are realistic in the real world.
I'm not saying you have to live the rules of Corri, and mostly that is because I'm still trying to figure them out myself.
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People are not flawless. I was about to cheat on my H. But I love him and he loves me and we are working on it. That's all I can say.
It isn't about people being perfect or flawless. It isn't about you and your H loving each other. It's about the fact that you were about to cheat. I don't care. If that's what you want to do, go do it... I'm not judging you. I'm remembering your posts... you were going to go cheat, soldier boy canceled, so you decided to be honest with H, he started crying... you show up here, confused... next day, you guys hit it four times, exactly how you want it (a little angry)... you even state your confusion over it... but hey... now everyone is happy and working on it.
Great. So I'll stop. It wasn't my intention to be a downer... it's precisely because I am D that I am coming in and saying that if you were that close to throwing it all away, it would be very prudent of you to work on things while they are 'good,' cuz by your own words, you aren't real good at it when things aren't going your way. I don't know many of us that are.
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And I hardly ever understand where blackfoot is coming from. Both of you tend to post in such a cryptic way.
Just because you don't understand doesn't mean I'm being cryptic. I'm not trying to be mystic and withhold secrets. I'm not trying to 'fool' someone. It could be I'm just having a hard time being clear. After all, I'm not flawless.
