Actually, your post makes a ton of sense to me. What I am having a little trouble with is that in defining myself and what I want, I am finding it hard to also focus on appreciating MrsGGB for who she is rather than getting stuck on who she is not. I can plainly see that this is the quagmire that Cemar gets stuck in. I can also see that this self discovery ideally should happen before you get into a LTR rather than 20+ years into it, but that is another road. Anyway, I'm wondering if that tendency to get stuck, might simply be a symptom of not really recognizing myself fully, as it seems to be a little easier to pull out of those potholes after reflecting on myself than it did before. What do you think?
