Again, I appreciate the advice. And I am willing to look at myself and the contribution ive made to the way things are. I do try to be understanding and I try to talk to her and I try to be supportive. I may have come off like a selfish [censored], like its all me me me, but its really not how I am. I am willing to own up to things that I ahev done and im willing to look into ways to make things better. By the same token, I feel like she isnt willing to own up to her part of the way things are. Yes I agree that we have many more problems than just sex. Ive always thought that the lack of sex is just a symptom of a bigger problem that we just cant seem to get through. Its difficult to really accurately give both sides of the conversations and convey tone on a message board. The wise cracks are more a sign of the frustration I feel in trying to do what I think is right and what she wants me to do, yet its never right. The bottom line is that we just dont 'get' each other like we used to. I dont know how it happened, it doesnt matter who's fault it is, and I know I havent been the perfect mate either. Ive allowed things to fester for far too long and become resentful about issues because im afraid of having conflict with her. I figure if I can just keep things smooth she'll be happy. I know that makes things even more difficult because im not being honest to my feelings and to her.
