From a sane person's perspective, wouldn't you be freaked out with how much you long for your wife when you are at ow's house?? Wouldn't you wonder why you are professing your love to your wife and still be certain that you must divorce her??? I know.. I'm trying to rantionalize insanity!
Well...it's honest confusion. He still loves you Olive. But somehow he wants to be with OW more. They grieve when they give up OW, why shouldn't he grieve when he's giving you up? He's feeling a loss. The time for cake-eating has stopped and it's going to hurt him more.
The fact that he's telling you how much he loves you, while he's at the OW's house and crying to you, is frnakly, in my opinion, pathetic and wussy. Real men don't do that. It's the sign of a weak, indecisive, man. He wants you to be the OW now.
You see he's still that little boy who can't decide if he wants to go to his friend's birthday party or the movies with his siblings. He cries and pouts, but little boys, mericfully, have parents who require decisions of them. You husband is still a little boy who hasn't quite learned that he can't have his cake and eat it, too. And his family and church -- the community who is supposed to hold him accountable -- is letting him have his crying fit and not requiring him to act responsibly. Your husband has passion and strong feelings, but they are so undisciplined, they've become ugly and deformed. And most of all -- hurtful.
